disipline

unfortunately, in every household where kids are involved, there has to be rules that have to be followed and disipline when those rules aren't followed. now, myself, coming up in a very violent home, know the difference between a spank and a beating. time outs are a parent favorite as well as taking things away. i only know about the disipline of younger kids as i don't have teens yet.

i, myself am not opposed to a soft smack on the behind, but i favor the time out. there are several ways to do the time out. in the corner is the one that takes the fight out of kids for a while. the standing in front of you time out, is for younger children, toddlers really. however the one that my children hate the most is a time out on the bed. take away all there toys, turn off the tv, and turn off the light. they think that it is bedtime and they behave for a good long time.

yelling at your children, hardly ever works. all it does is make your children afraid of you. that is the last thing you want. you want your kids to love and respect you, not loathe and fear you. i know its hard not to pull your hair and yell. i know i slip every once in a while but try and control the voice. you can make your point talking with a controlled voice rather than a loud one.

disiplining children in public is not great either. probably one of the worst ideas you can think of. children have feelings just like everyone else, but they're harder to control. your children's feelings will get hurt faster and easier than we, as parents, sometimes think. with starangers aroung it is even worse. worse than that are the people that are around. some might think you are being a little to hard on your own child a call the police. to be totally honest, i have done it myself, but the little girl was getting her hair pulled and yanked by her mother. still, it was a situation that i did not want to be in as the caller and it would probably be worse as the one one who was called because of.

remember that when you are around family, you are the ones to hand out disipline. no one else should be handling that part of parenting. if someone in the family tries handing out justice, stand up for yourself and your kids. i think your feelings should be known, that nobody shall disipline your kids but you. now, when you are not there, you should designate someone to hand out the punishments. that's about all i have on this subject. please leave me some messages as to what has worked for you. unless you are a cruel hateful person like my step father was, your kids will see that the punishment you hand out is and was for their own good.

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